James
A young woman, just 18 years old and a recent high school graduate, came into the clinic determined to have an abortion. She had plans for her future, and in her mind, this pregnancy did not fit into them. Uncertain of how far along she was, she shared over the phone that if she was past the legal limit in the state, she would travel to Colorado for the abortion.
During her appointment, the ultrasound revealed she was 21 weeks and 4 days along. As is often the case, the baby was really showing off on the screen—moving, stretching, and making his presence known. It quickly became clear that she was carrying a son. But what stood out most in that moment was the reaction of the baby’s father, James.
Up until this point, he had remained quiet, letting her take the lead in making the decision. But as he watched his son on the ultrasound screen, something shifted. He bonded with his child right then and there.
When they left the clinic, abortion was still on her mind, but she said they would take time to talk it over. The turning point in this young woman’s story wasn’t just seeing her baby—it was the unwavering presence and support of the father. His willingness to step forward and embrace his role made all the difference.
This story is a powerful reminder that the decisions made in moments like these are not made in isolation. Support—especially from fathers—can change everything.
(Story provided by Leah Conner, Wyandotte Pregnancy Clinic, Kansas City, KS)
Evan
She first reached out to the clinic through text (due to a Vitae Foundation ad), requesting the abortion pill. She was anxious and unsure, pressured by the father of the baby, Evan, who urged her to schedule the procedure. He even promised to pay for it and take her out to dinner whenever she wanted following the abortion. But she wasn’t certain. She agreed to come in and discuss all her options.
At the clinic, she opened up about her fears. She knew her baby was a life from conception, but Evan’s pressure weighed heavily on her. She was in college, studying biology, and didn’t see how she could manage both school and motherhood. Her advocate encouraged her to slow down and consider what she truly wanted—not just what Evan was pushing for.
Over time, she decided to carry her baby, but Evan was angry about her decision. He later told her he wanted her to place the baby for adoption. At his request, the clinic arranged for him to meet with a Fatherhood mentor. During their hour-long conversation, Evan shared his fears—his own father had been absent, and he worried about failing his child. The mentor spoke truth and encouragement into his life.
Afterward, Evan joined her for an ultrasound. Seeing his child on the screen sucking its thumb and hiccuping, he softened. He admitted that co-parenting might actually be possible. From pressuring her toward abortion and pushing for adoption, to finally embracing fatherhood, it was clear that support and mentorship gave him the confidence to step up.
(Story provided by Sonya Rice, Parkville Women’s Clinic, Parkville, MO)
*Names and minor details changed to protect privacy